Crying on the job? You're not alone, with 8 in 10 workers shedding tears

[euphemia]

Been my experience jerks tend to gravitate to cities..

Larger pond to hide in.

Not necessarily. I do notice that they often have more money than sense.

[phill4paul]

Well, I hope they do it on break and in a closet instead of company time.

[RJB]

I cried after I lost a job when I was 16. It was mostly pride. No one saw that.

The last time I came close was early on in Marine Corps boot camp. The DI saw a weakness and yelled, "Oh, you gonna cry.". The others swarmed and the four of them screaming at me had the reverse effect. It pissed me off. They actually looked sad, when I didn't break. The funny thing was after that, I vowed that they'd never get a reaction out of me again. However after that everything struck me as funny in boot camp and I could not stop smiling. I would feel like I was about to die but I had a goofy grin. They thought I was crazy. They may have been right. The last few weeks of boot camp, they pretty much left me alone. Since then I haven't had a problem with smiling at inappropriate times.

Also since then I only have cried a handful of time when someone very close to me has died (Hell even Vito Corleone cried for Sonny). The handful of times that happens, I go somewhere private and let it go, and afterwards, I feel very little grief. If I don't let it out, the grief hounds me.

[nikcers]

Well, I hope they do it on break and in a closet instead of company time.

The best is when you take a $#@! on company time, its like you get paid to take a $#@!.

[RJB]

It’s the customers. Always the customers. It is amazing how people can be so ignorant, neglectful, and chintzy, then expect someone to swoop in on a white horse to save the day at no additional cost to them. Snd be ugly and abusive to the people who ar trying to help them.

I have cried twice.

I worked at a department store and saw some customers who would make a scene and get rewarded with a discount. They would pull the same crap regularly and get rewarded. I decided that the customer is always right unless they are just there to cause a scene. Then you kick them off your property and let them cause a scene elsewhere, preferably at your competitor's business.

[Swordsmyth]

The funny thing was after that, I vowed that they'd never get a reaction out of me again. However after that everything struck me as funny in boot camp and I could not stop smiling. I would feel like I was about to die but I had a goofy grin. They thought I was crazy. They may have been right. The last few weeks of boot camp, they pretty much left me alone. Since then I haven't had a problem with smiling at inappropriate times.

[nikcers]

It’s the customers. Always the customers. It is amazing how people can be so ignorant, neglectful, and chintzy, then expect someone to swoop in on a white horse to save the day at no additional cost to them. Snd be ugly and abusive to the people who ar trying to help them.

I have cried twice.

Yeah that's because most the time the customer is getting ripped off so they are so used to being ripped off you sort of don't think you can get help without being a dick. I am guilty of this sometimes and I have been in the customer service persons shoes before. You sort of hit your limit when you are getting ripped off and the business isn't entitled to your business. Sometimes you just have to walk away from a bad deal if you aren't getting a good deal.

[RJB]

One of them called me Gomer for a few weeks.

[Swordsmyth]

One of them called me Gomer for a few weeks.

It's a great strategy if you can pull it off.

It drove Sgt. Carter nuts.

[phill4paul]

The best is when you take a $#@! on company time, its like you get paid to take a $#@!.

Your company should have key cards to open the bathroom door that clocks you out then back in when you're done.

[nikcers]

Your company should have key cards to open the bathroom door that clocks you out then back in when you're done.

Cameras in the bathroom too, you can't know if someone is actually taking a $#@! or not.

[Suzanimal]

What about people who pretend to cry in order to illicit an emotional response or un-nerve your adversaries into having to back down from their position or have the moral highground in a negotiation?

It's a negotiation tactic, for sure. I've used it to weasel my way out of a bind or two.

[Occam's Banana]

I bet Lech Walesa never cried on the job.

Turtleneck sweater, 70's porn 'stache, "don't $#@! with me" stare and smoking a Polish Lucky Strike.

Lech was bad-ass.

We could use some men like him today, instead of soyboy, pajama wearing, cocoa sipping fagggots.

[heavenlyboy34]

O kurwa. Must be some damn bad jobs out there. I work with strongly autistic kids and an irritating boss at my current day job 5-8 hours/day and haven't felt the need to cry so far.

[Anti Federalist]

The pirates and convicts that made up the first crew I ever sailed with would have $#@!ing keel hauled me if I had ever resorted to crying.

[nikcers]

The pirates and convicts that made up the first crew I ever sailed with would have $#@!ing keel hauled me if I had ever resorted to crying.

You were a pirate?

[Anti Federalist]

I bet Lech Walesa never cried on the job.

And he is no fan of the migrant invaders in Europe or the weirdosexuals either.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lech_Wa%C5%82%C4%99sa

[shakey1]

[Anti Federalist]

You were a pirate?

I was Jim Hawkins, at first.

[fedupinmo]

The best is when you take a $#@! on company time, its like you get paid to take a $#@!.

I had a job a few years back where I didn't get good phone signal in the pooper... I played SO MUCH Bunny Shooter in that tooter.
They DID lay me off when they closed the local plant, and then paid me scads of money to go to their new plant for a month and a half and "train their new employees" which actually meant do their job...

[Swordsmyth]

I was Jim Hawkins, at first.

And now you're Long John Silver?

[tfurrh]

The pirates and convicts that made up the first crew I ever sailed with would have $#@!ing keel hauled me if I had ever resorted to crying.

[Anti Federalist]

And now you're Long John Silver?

More like Capt. Queeq I think.

[phill4paul]

I don't cry at my new factory job. I do quite a bit of Navy cussing, which, thankfully, the drone of the machines keeps my co-workers from reporting me.

Better to cuss than to cry. Ain't cried since I was 13. But, done a helluva lot of cussing.

[shakey1]

I don't cry at my new factory job. I do quite a bit of Navy cussing, which, thankfully, the drone of the machines keeps my co-workers from reporting me.

Better to cuss than to cry.

Got let go after 21 years... no tears... it’s bizzznezzz... words were said tho.

[Anti Federalist]

Got let go after 21 years... no tears... it’s bizzznezzz... words were said tho.

I was looking for a job when I found this one.

[Krugminator2]

Right out of college, I had a job where I left for the office before 7 am and got home after 9 pm every night. Worked Saturday AM and had company functions on half the weekends I was expected to attend. I did that for 3 years and a month and with zero days off except Christmas day and Thanksgiving day and cried all the time.

There are basically two people who haven't cried at their job. Those who are content with mediocrity and aren't going for the brass ring. They don't have higher ambitions so the inevitable setbacks don't phase them. And people who used to cry but were able to carve out a niche with something they enjoy. I fall in the latter and haven't cried in 10 years but still have the occasional 2AM walk around the block. The 8 out of 10 number seems right.

[VIDEODROME]

Right out of college, I had a job where I left for the office before 7 am and got home after 9 pm every night. Worked Saturday AM and had company functions on half the weekends I was expected to attend. I did that for 3 years and a month and with zero days off except Christmas day and Thanksgiving day and cried all the time.

There are basically two people who haven't cried at their job. Those who are content with mediocrity and aren't going for the brass ring. They don't have higher ambitions so the inevitable setbacks don't phase them. And people who used to cry but were able to carve out a niche with something they enjoy. I fall in the latter and haven't cried in 10 years but still have the occasional 2AM walk around the block. The 8 out of 10 number seems right.

I'm a truck driver and I hate my job. Well, I should say I hate the hours; if I had longer breaks I could deal with it. Some truckers just do it and don't seem to care. I have to guess that as you say, they don't have that much imagination and are content to turn the wheels collecting their cents per mile.

I feel like I'm wasting my life. It's hard to figure out another field I could get into or maybe I can keep looking for a more local job without the crazy hours.

[nikcers]

I'm a truck driver and I hate my job. Well, I should say I hate the hours; if I had longer breaks I could deal with it. Some truckers just do it and don't seem to care. I have to guess that as you say, they don't have that much imagination and are content to turn the wheels collecting their cents per mile.

I feel like I'm wasting my life. It's hard to figure out another field I could get into or maybe I can keep looking for a more local job without the crazy hours.

You gotta put yourself in the right mindset to start a new career. If you aren't improving yourself anymore than you are wasting your life. A new career will help you build new skills and life experience that will make you a better person if you put everything into it. A good career is one that the more you put into it the more you get out of it. Some companies are better than others at that. Stay away from toxic people and toxic environments where everyone you work with is your adversary and keep an open mind about new things. Lots of people hate their job and try to make other people miserable like them, try to talk to people who work at different jobs and companies and ask them what they like about it.

[Krugminator2]

I'm a truck driver and I hate my job. Well, I should say I hate the hours; if I had longer breaks I could deal with it. Some truckers just do it and don't seem to care. I have to guess that as you say, they don't have that much imagination and are content to turn the wheels collecting their cents per mile.

I feel like I'm wasting my life. It's hard to figure out another field I could get into or maybe I can keep looking for a more local job without the crazy hours.

I was at a point where I was getting pretty established but I was very depressed. I had the exact feeling that I would waste my life if I didn't make a change. It is the most sinking persistent feeling imaginable. The company had done some things to keep me but the compensation plan was spread out over a year to entice me not to quit. But I just quit with no real plan one day. I was way past the breaking point.

It is hard for me to say "just follow your bliss" to someone else. I had a little money saved and no debt. I had minimal expenses. And I was willing to make not very much money for 5 or 6 years and live basically like a homeless person. Plus I was in my mid 20s. I don't know of really anybody who did what I did so "recklessly". I was ridiculed by my dad and my mom was super ashamed, though was less vocal. I really didn't have a backup and had never worked in my college major (engineering). So I didn't have a resume. But it was the single best decision I ever made. I have a great life.

You spend a huge part of your life at work. My feeling is and was chasing something you enjoy and improving at it is far better even if you never make more money, than staying in something you hate. And the reality is if you stick with something you like long enough you will probably make more money anyway. That said, I don't know most people are wired like me.

A few things that had a big impact on me around that time were The Fountainhead, Pursuit of Happyness with Will Smith, and Millionaire Republican by Wayne Root (cheesy title and cheesy author but inspiring book). Ayn Rand took odd jobs and it took a couple of decades before she became a big success. Roark in The Fountainhead had a lot struggles. It is one of those things if you make the choice, you end up finding a way. I don't think most people are willing to persist with something for 10 years or more years though.