I think what you are doing is separating two things that are integral to each other. Hear me out here cuz I know off the bat you will disagree with this - but attracting a woman for sex vs. a relationship is pretty much the same thing because sex is an integral part of a longterm relationship. Otherwise you are really just friends, and the longer you are friends with a woman rather than romantic partners the more likely it is going to stay that way. A lot of guys who seek advice from PUAs have had many girl friends who have friendzoned them and they are trying to figure out how to take their relationships with women to the physical level SO that they can have a longterm ROMANTIC relationship with them.
Sometimes hookups result in one night stands, and sometimes they result in longterm relationships. There is nothing inherently different in the beginning of the process, even if sex is postponed for some length of time due to religious beliefs or otherwise. If there was a difference, girls would pick up on it and avoid the guys who are just manipulating them to have sex, but they don't. That's the whole point of PUA, is to EITHER convince a woman you want a romantic relationship or deceive her. Both of these look the same from the outside and both can be taught by the same practitioner, what changes is what happens after the sex happens and the woman at that point may find out what the man's true intentions were.
The other issue is that you never know if the guy who has sex with 20 women is not looking for a relationship at all, or if the women just give away sex to him like crazy so of course he will take it, and then he is just being really picky about who he has longterm relationships with. So it's important not to put guys in the category of "just wanting sex" or "just wanting relationships". I get asked that all the time, I have NEVER in my entire life, EVER been looking for JUST sex OR JUST relationships. It is true that some guys are looking for just one or another, but hard to judge by appearances (and definitely cannot judge them by what they say they are after).
It is often said that women are the gatekeepers for sex, and men for relationships. In other words, the woman decides if the guy gets to have sex, and the guy decides if their interactions will develop into a relationship. It's not always the case, but it's a good model to go off of for our purposes, as I get to your next issue:
A happily married man may have attracted his wife at some point, but that isn't really a track record.
PUAs are good at attracting women for sexual relationships, and they generally toss the girls aside afterward. It would be just as easy for them to enter into a longterm relationships with most of these girls, but remember guys are the gatekeepers of relationships. PUAs have little incentive to enter into a longterm relationship because they can easily have sex without one not to mention their career is somewhat reliant on them being single - (that does not need to always be the case as we are about to see)
Here is a story of a PUA who had great difficulty with girls when he was young, got older and one day figured out the "secret" and became very proficient at it, and now feels he is returning to his roots by getting married. I say roots because he talks about when he was young and girls weren't that into him he was actually fantasizing about having relationships with these girls, not just sex. But then when it clicked for him, he allegedly got so good at it so quickly that he decided to turn it into a lifestyle and help coach other men and it turned into a career for him. Some of this is marketing, but there is some legitimate points as well, if you're interested in reading this (not totally necessary):
https://www.puatraining.com/blog/getting-married
I don't follow PUAs, I paid for one PUA type program back in 2011 and I credit that in part for finally having my first serious longterm relationship at the age of 29. We lived together for about 3 years and were both very committed to each other and had the intention of staying together. We enjoyed hobbies together, were best friends, but unfortunately she had some psychological issues that frankly, prevents her from having a consistent relationship with anybody indefinitely including her friends and family members. To this day I am probably the most compatible person she has ever had any type of relationship with, physical or otherwise, male or female. I did not break up with her, though, so not much I could have done.
I almost had a pretty great MIL, but I dunno if she was that great lol. FIL threatened to take her out of the will if she married me (they were divorced).
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