Relationship Is Affecting My Mental Health

[alivecream]

I have been in a steady relationship with my partner for almost a year now. But recently, due to stupid small arguments, our relationship is a bit going on the rocks. I don't want to lose anything that we have but the silent treatment is affecting my mental health.

It started out in a simple miscommunication. We already talked about it but it seems like nothing's really changing. I can't seem to focus on anything and I get severe headaches for no reasons. I feel so stressed out. What do I do?

[ARealConservative]

I have been in a steady relationship with my partner for almost a year now. But recently, due to stupid small arguments, our relationship is a bit going on the rocks. I don't want to lose anything that we have but the silent treatment is affecting my mental health.

It started out in a simple miscommunication. We already talked about it but it seems like nothing's really changing. I can't seem to focus on anything and I get severe headaches for no reasons. I feel so stressed out. What do I do?

what you have is a relationship with someone that plays games like silent treatments. you don't have much to lose IMO. I think walking away should be a strong consideration.

[tod evans]

I have been in a steady relationship with my partner

WTF is this modern speak?

If you're married or shacked up say so, if you're not in a heterosexual relationship, say so...

Stop with the ambiguous talk, use plain English and see if communication doesn't work better for you.

I don't know anybody who subscribes to this modern way of avoiding honesty in their speech.

[euphemia]

Talk to a professional. Relationship problems are beyond the scope of an internet message board. I seem to recall you have a child.

[ARealConservative]

WTF is this modern speak?

If you're married or shacked up say so, if you're not in a heterosexual relationship, say so...

Stop with the ambiguous talk, use plain English and see if communication doesn't work better for you.

I don't know anybody who subscribes to this modern way of avoiding honesty in their speech.

still being you I see.

what does a government sanctioned relationship have to do with anything? who gives a $#@! if he/she is married.

[tod evans]

still being you I see.

what does a government sanctioned relationship have to do with anything? who gives a $#@! if he/she is married.

Has nothing to do with anything but honesty...

Many people 'marry' in the Church and forego registering with the government, others 'marry' in ceremonies surrounded by friends, again foregoing registration. Marriage can be, and was, used in the form of a lifetime commitment not as you allege a government sanctioned relationship...

Would you like catsup with that foot?

[tod evans]

what you have is a relationship with someone that plays games like silent treatments. you don't have much to lose IMO. I think walking away should be a strong consideration.

While I'm typing........

What kind of idiot would off the cuff suggest breaking up a family?

Are these people the child's parents? I certainly have no idea...

Are they of strong moral fiber? I certainly have no idea...

Do either of them possess basic communication skills? I certainly have no idea...

Learning to talk plain English about tender subjects is difficult for some but it's certainly no reason to break up a family....

[specsaregood]

Learning to talk plain English about tender subjects is difficult for some but it's certainly no reason to break up a family....

You make an excellent point. Somebody that says "I have been in a steady relationship with my partner for almost a year now. " certainly doesn't sound like somebody committed and "all in" in a relationship. It sounds like somebody holding back and waiting for an excuse to end it.

[Origanalist]

WTF is this modern speak?

If you're married or shacked up say so, if you're not in a heterosexual relationship, say so...

Stop with the ambiguous talk, use plain English and see if communication doesn't work better for you.

I don't know anybody who subscribes to this modern way of avoiding honesty in their speech.

[PursuePeace]

I have been in a steady relationship with my partner for almost a year now. But recently, due to stupid small arguments, our relationship is a bit going on the rocks. I don't want to lose anything that we have but the silent treatment is affecting my mental health.

It started out in a simple miscommunication. We already talked about it but it seems like nothing's really changing. I can't seem to focus on anything and I get severe headaches for no reasons. I feel so stressed out. What do I do?

Sounds like perhaps someone is not being honest about something and they are arguing over stupid stuff because they are unable to give the real reasons for their angst against the other person. One of you needs to come clean with what the heck is wrong, or you will suffer the death of a thousand tiny cuts. (Relentless petty arguments that further the divide and harden the heart.)



Good luck, hope everything works out.
Have patience and sincerity and don't give into/feed the pettiness.
Get to the truth of the matter. What is the real issue?

[ARealConservative]

While I'm typing........

What kind of idiot would off the cuff suggest breaking up a family?

Are these people the child's parents? I certainly have no idea...

Are they of strong moral fiber? I certainly have no idea...

Do either of them possess basic communication skills? I certainly have no idea...

Learning to talk plain English about tender subjects is difficult for some but it's certainly no reason to break up a family....

what kind of idiot assumes they are a family? I'd continue reading, but you reminded me what an idiot you are on the first line of your nonsense

[ARealConservative]

Talk to a professional. Relationship problems are beyond the scope of an internet message board. I seem to recall you have a child.

not bad advice

life is too short to spend it with someone that plays game IMO. If "the silent treatment" is a game they often play, you need to have some real compelling reasons to stick with such a person. In the limited info we are given, the only reason for counseling, is for the person you are with to solve whatever is wrong with them to compel them to play childish games.

[tod evans]

not bad advice

life is too short to spend it with someone that plays game IMO. If "the silent treatment" is a game they often play, you need to have some real compelling reasons to stick with such a person. In the limited info we are given, the only reason for counseling, is for the person you are with to solve whatever is wrong with them to compel them to play childish games.

Have you ever considered that permitting another person to effect your mental/physical well-being is cause in and of itself for counseling?

Ignorance has no place advising one on life changing issues, especially when a child is involved.

[ARealConservative]

Have you ever considered that permitting another person to effect your mental/physical well-being is cause in and of itself for counseling?

Ignorance has no place advising one on life changing issues, especially when a child is involved.

I find you talking to anyone about counseling to be hilarious

[tod evans]

I find you talking to anyone about counseling to be hilarious

Glad you get a laugh about such thing as broken families...

Sick $#@!!

[ARealConservative]

Glad you get a laugh about such thing as broken families...

Sick $#@!!

bwahahaa. feigned indignation, or just a pussy?

[tod evans]

bwahahaa. feigned indignation, or just a pussy?

Once again your usual eloquence is astounding, your superior intelligence humbling and your morals impeccable.

[ARealConservative]

Once again your usual eloquence is astounding, your superior intelligence humbling and your morals impeccable. ]

thank you. first intelligent thing you have said

[tod evans]

thank you. first intelligent thing you have said

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[thoughtomator]

If you're asking this bunch of chronically dysfunctional misfits for relationship advice, you've got bigger problems than this.

[Schifference]

Mental health is affecting the relationship?

[ARealConservative]

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[Bryan]

Let's please keep things civil and on-topic.

Thanks.

[CaptUSA]

At this point in my marriage, I tend to savor the silent treatment. It doesn’t happen often enough but when it does, I don’t have to explain myself and I can be alone with my thoughts. We need those breaks every now and again.

[alivecream]

Honestly, I already asked a mental health expert about my condition since it has been giving me tons of psychological issues. I also read a lot of forums and articles from

www.regain.us

that perhaps has the issue same as mine. It's like I'm getting paranoid and I only want to fix this. I told my partner that the silent treatment is way too hurtful rather than spoken brutal words.

[alivecream]

Talk to a professional. Relationship problems are beyond the scope of an internet message board. I seem to recall you have a child.

Yes, I have put this into considerations. Thanks for your suggestion.