School tells sixth-graders they can't say no when asked to dance

[NorthCarolinaLiberty]

WEST HAVEN, Utah (CNN/KSTU) —

School tells sixth-graders they can't say no when asked to dance

A Utah mom is upset about a school policy in which sixth-grade girls can't say "no" when boys ask them to dance.

The mom says it sends the wrong message to the young students.

"Oh no, no honey. You guys are misunderstanding again. That`s not how it is," said mother Natalie Richard.

When Richard`s sixth grade daughter told her she couldn`t say no if a boy asked her to dance at Kanesville Elementary School’s Valentine`s Day dance, she didn`t believe it at first.

"The teacher said she can`t. She has to say yes. She has to accept and I said excuse me?" Richard said.

So she took her concerns to the school principal.

"He basically just said they`ve had this dance set up this way for a long time and they`ve never had any concerns before," she said.

Lane Findlay, with the Weber School District, confirms it`s a rule, but it`s meant to teach students how to be inclusive.

"Please be respectful, be polite,” Findlay said, the district’s community relations specialist. “We want to promote kindness and so we want you to say yes when someone asks you to dance."

"I do see it from their perspective when it comes to that, but there are many other ways to teach children how to be accepting than with a social dance," Richard said.

She says forcing students not to say “no” teaches them the wrong lesson.

"Sends a bad message to girls that girls have to say ‘yes,’” she said. “Sends a bad message to boys that girls will — can`t say ‘no.’"

Prior to the dance, which is voluntary, students are told to fill out a card, selecting five people they want to dance with. And the administration says if there`s someone on the card you feel uncomfortable with, the student is encouraged to speak up.

"If there is an issue, if there`s students that are uncomfortable or have a problem with another student, I mean, that`s certainly something that can be addressed with that student and parents," Findlay said

But Richards says rejection is part of life and at the end of the day, this policy is sending impressionable children the wrong message.

"Psychologically my daughter keeps coming to me and saying I can`t say ‘no’ to a boy,” she said. “That`s the message kids are getting."

As of now, the rule remains in place.

http://www.kmvt.com/content/news/Sch...473610053.html

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[Raginfridus]

lol

Let the "back in my days" begin!

[Schifference]

Must boy's dance with another boy if asked?

[Raginfridus]

Must boy's dance with another boy if asked?

Of course.

[phill4paul]

lol

Let the "back in my days" begin!

[dean.engelhardt]

Utah...the principal probably has 18 wives. Kind of makes sense.

[specsaregood]

So much for "no means no"

[oyarde]

lol

Let the "back in my days" begin!

We did not have Dances until about grade 7 or 8 . I was a visionary . I never told a girl no . Some of those girls that looked pretty plain at 14 were pretty attractive at 20 . Like my Dad always told me , " hard work pays off in the end " .

[Brian4Liberty]

students are told to fill out a card, selecting five people they want to dance with

"Dance cards"? Do these people think it is 1942?

These kids are more than capable of swiping left or right on an app.

[oyarde]

If I was running it I would make it an Administrative Professionals Dance and have all the kids dress up as what they want to be when they grow up . That way you could easily keep an eye on the Airline pilots etc

[angelatc]

We did not have Dances until about grade 7 or 8 . I was a visionary . I never told a girl no . Some of those girls that looked pretty plain at 14 were pretty attractive at 20 . Like my Dad always told me , " hard work pays off in the end " .

When I was reading teen magazines I read something allegedly written by a girl who explained how she managed to at least look popular. She said that she never refused to dance with any boy who asked her and she never turned down an offer to go on a date unless she felt she was in danger. I took those as words to live by.


The lesson to the girls here should be that they should be polite. This makes them look like victims.

[oyarde]

"Dance cards"? Do these people think it is 1942?

These kids are more than capable of swiping left or right on an app.

I like the idea of this . I could have just put two girls down 2 1/2 times .

[oyarde]

When I was reading teen magazines I read something allegedly written by a girl who explained how she managed to at least look popular. She said that she never refused to dance with any boy who asked her and she never turned down an offer to go on a date unless she felt she was in danger. I took those as words to live by.


The lesson to the girls here should be that they should be polite. This makes them look like victims.

Being polite went a long way in my day . I was always polite and courteous to every other kid . Nothing wrong with the ol' treat people as you would like to be treated .

[Raginfridus]

I would have benefited from this rule. I was not only a fatty, I was also student most likely to blow up the school. My Geometry and History teachers steered my interests in a better direction.

[dannno]

Are they allowed to bolt across the gym floor before you get your first word out?

[Swordsmyth]

School That Told Students To Say Yes If Asked To Dance Changes Policy

http://denver.cbslocal.com/2018/02/13/school-students-say-yes-dance/

[DamianTV]

"Rightful liberty is unobstructed action according to our will, within limits drawn around us by the equal rights of others. I do not add "within the limits of the law", because law is often but the tyrant's will, and always so when it violates the right of an individual."

-Thomas Jefferson

This applies to Dancing also.

It may be considered impolite to decline to dance with someone, but this is just an extension of the Hygienic Function of Public Education. The "Hygienic Function" is essentially to exclude children who are viewed as undesirable by both administrators, and applied by other children that accept the decisions of administration. IE, teachers teach kids that those who get bad grades are not worth being friends, so get out of the gene pool you disobedient waste to the elite. See what John Taylor Gatto has to say about the real purpose of public education.