Originally Posted by
DevilsAdvocate
Marriage doesn't make logical sense. At least, the marriage contract doesn't. It's ridiculously unfair and one sided, you'd have to either be an idiot, or have no self respect at all to sign that piece of paper.
Every single relationship is unique, so it makes sense that every relationship needs a unique contract. The woman might be a high power executive, while than man is a beach bum. A relationship like that should have a far different marriage contract than one in which the man is the main breadwinner. It just makes sense.
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Let's say two people are married, and they have an argument. It's likely that neither he or she is 100% right, but they battle it out, throw some dirty glances, and then kiss and make up. Every single couple on the face of the earth goes through this scenario. But now let's say that the woman, through the unfair marriage contract, can leave whenever she wants, and take the kids with her. Now all of a sudden, she wins every single argument. Because if she doesn't get her way, she can threaten to leave, and her husband will cave in to her demands every time.
Suddenly, she loses respect for him. He's no longer her man, he's a weakling that she can boss around and treat like dirt if she wants to. He's no longer desirable for her. So she finds some excuse to leave him. Now she's a single mom, on government benefits, collecting alimony from her husband who's only allowed to see his kids once a week. She finds a boyfriend, someone she can actually respect, to take care of her needs. The children are harmed, but the wife has it pretty good, at least in the short run.
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The type of woman that you'd find in the above scenario is most likely going to be the "ex party girl" type. Someone who craves sexual adventure, and never wants to be bound to a single man.
Going through college, I must of met thousands of these girls. They glorify partying to almost a religous extreme. They buy all sorts of fancy getups and prepare for hours, like an athlete training for a race. A couple of the girls I knew actually went broke, and couldn't afford their books or rent, but they had enough money for a $500 dress and a new shot glass. It's all the most beautiful girls too.
I think somehow they've been told, either in school, or by their parents, that when they're young, they're supposed to go nuts and sleep with half the town. The truth is that in the eyes of a lot of men, this ruins them for marriage. Do you really want the mother of your children to be somebody who's slept with 50 guys, is covered in tattoos, and is habitually drunk? This isn't feminine at all, it's actually pretty disgusting.
Historically, purity has been a great virtue. Most men I've talked to would prefer to marry a virgin, or at least the closest they can get. This is what men actually want in a wife, someone who is devoted to them. A blushing giggling beautiful bride. Not an old used up party chick who curses like a sailor, and talks like a man.
So for me personally, if you're a party girl or a slut, I won't touch you. You are the plague. Second of all, I will never sign that unfair marriage contract. We can have a big ceremony, stand at the altar, say our vows. But either we draw up a private contract, or if that's not allowed, we don't sign anything and just live together.
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