Why can't every woman do that? If they really don't want to have sex, then just ignore them and break off contact. Just because it's a hard choice, that doesn't mean there's force involved. Everyone has difficult decisions in their life, but their decisions are still just that, THEIRS.
This is just mind-boggling. You repeatedly assert the woman's right to refuse and yet you act like that right is violated if she STOPS refusing. If she doesn't want sex, then why does she stop refusing? Just keep refusing and there will be no sex unless the man uses force. So apparently a woman has the right to refuse, but choosing to stop refusing is a violation of one's rights...?
I've got news. The only way to not be cajoled in ANY situation is to be steadfast in your own decisions. If a street vendor stands in front of you on the street and tries to get you to buy something and you succumb to his nagging, is it theft? This is a valid analogy because everyone can choose to just walk away. The presence of other variables that make the decision harder don't make it any less possible to refuse. You need to learn the difference between coercing and convincing. If someone talks you into something, they are NOT coercing you.I don't advocate throwing people in prison for this (the prisons are crowded enough already), but I do advocate changing cultural attitudes such that we can minimize the issue of people feeling as though they are being cajoled into having sex. I am advocating for people to be valued as individuals above the sexual angle. The problem comes when the sex is valued more highly than the individual and thus the perpetrator doesn't acknowledge that what he/she is doing is coercion.
This exact same situation happens in a plethora of situations not involving sex every single day. It's just part of life. You have to negotiate with people. If you don't want it that bad, then all you have to do is not say yes... it's that simple. If convincing someone to do something they don't want to do is coercion, then this happens all the freaking time. If it's emotionally damaging for you to give in, then the simple solution is to NOT GIVE IN. If the woman does not give in and she still feels pressured, has he still harmed her? If a woman tries to get a man to buy her something and he does not give in, does it harm him? If so, then I hate to say it, but you really need to toughen up. Sometimes you have to negotiate in life. Not respecting someone's answer is NOT coercion. If a pushy salesman gets you to give him your money or credit card, he didn't steal from you. He did not coerce you. You just have to negotiate better or not give in.Nothing I have written contradicts this idea. Purposefully asking numerous times expecting the other party to let his/her guard down, does, however, fall into "taking sex". At the end of the day, what it really comes down to is this: if someone says no, and you respect his/her reply, you lose the sex... which is obtainable pretty much anywhere, but if someone says no and you don't respect his/her reply, you have done harm to them whether you realize it or not. Which of the two scenarios would you rather live with? Seems like a common sense notion to me.
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