Yes, I do believe their service is worthless, at least, worthless above what they are already paid and nothing I can't stand up and do myself. Write my order on a piece of paper? I can do it. Go pick up my order from the kitchen? No problem, it's my meal, I'll gladly do it for free too. I don't hide anything I do as altruism, I truly hate it. There's a reason they're paid less than most jobs, because that's what their job is worth. The market has decided that for them.I'm sure you do tip and that it's because you know it's expected of you because to not tip would be to imply that the wait staff's services were worthless. However, you like to hide your obligation to tip under the facade of altruism. Regardless, tips are payment for a service as I have clearly demonstrated because it is there for the specific reason of giving incentive, not just for generosity. If this is the case, why don't they do that at other jobs?
What are they gonna do to you if you ignore them? Slap you?I always treated all my customers the same though I would silently curse the non-tippers for ordering an insane amount of food, needing 50 refills, plus this then that then this again for nothing and interfering with the service I was trying to give to my good tippers.
Sounds tough, but nobody is forcing you to work that job.We had to report a percentage of our total sales as tips whether we made it or not and that was then taxed, so a group of 4 that ends up ordering $100 worth of food (at Bob Evans mind you) and then stiffed me was indirectly costing me money as I was taxed for what they were supposed to give me.
That's the risk of the job. There's a reason nobody else wants to work there, and there's no shortage of people who need money.On a couple occasions that $100 table (as they came in once or twice a week) gave me a dollar or two. One guy with missing fingers used to wave my dollar tip at me and make me grasp for it while he'd pull it away. Sure I'd laugh along, but all the while seething because Mr. 20-freaking refills of rootbeer was toying with me for a buck.
Whose loss would that ultimately be? I love how people phrase things as if it's going to hurt consumers.lol Fortunately I had a 70-something guy come in 3 times a week, sit only in my section, and leave me $20 everytime. So it all balanced out. But some customers were just whacked out. HAHA
As far as paying the servers more, when minimum wage went up in Ohio (and server wages went to 3-something), the result was the firing of busboys. The servers then had the work of cleaning the tables added to their duties. If you paid them minimum wage 1. Who knows what other work they would add? and 2. There'd probably be fewer servers because the restaurant couldn't afford them.
Nobody if they had a choice, everybody if they didn't.Both of which would take away from the dining experience. Service would be abysmal. Also, who the hell would wait tables only to end up making minimum wage?
Seen homeless people? Seen Africa?Who would work for $2-3/hr with no tips?
You manage to earn them, that's good, but you can't fault a person for not appreciating you with their buck. Not until there's a legal obligation or explicit contract. Do you tip your friend for giving you a ride? Do you give a donation every time you're invited to a dinner party? Oh, ever asked to use a restroom when you're not a customer?I liked the competitiveness of waitressing. I loved when we counted tips at the end of the night and seeing that I made more than the grouchy sucky servers. I prided myself on great service and liked the tips I had to show for it. That's the free market. You market yourself and see what you get. I was a good marketer.
At the very least, the thought that you would actually complain to a manager about service that you know is priced/valued at .50 cents or less (without gratuity) is strange to me. It's practically free at that price, so what could you possibly have to complain about?
I think if you don't plan on tipping you should tell the server so they can make sure not to bust their ass for you. They'll get you when they get you and if you don't like it you can take your ass home and get your own damn food. Ignore a customer who wants your attention? HAHAHAHA You get your apron pulled on, you get tripped, they come up and get in your face... yeah. Not everybody is as basic as you are in desire for service. I had someone follow me into the bathroom once to tell me they needed a refill right away. I honestly don't think you've ever worked a day in serving the public else you would have a VERY different view.
And yes, I give my friends gas money for giving me a ride. Never been to a dinner party. I'm poor and so are my friends, so that kinda high falutin' stuff doesn't exist around these parts. And I do ask if I can use the bathroom if I'm not a customer, or I purchase something like a candy bar or something when I come out.
Can I ask what the "basic legal minimum" is?
Edited to add: If servers only made $3/hr and no tips, there would be no restaurants because no one would work for that. NO ONE. You can make better money getting welfare. And if you want homeless people serving your food. Have at it. And how Africans could fly over to work and then back home again off $3/hr seems incredibly... impossible.
Last edited by LBennett76; 02-27-2012 at 09:24 PM.
Sheesh, I have several pieces of new furniture, eat out multiple times every weekend, have internet, cell phone, etc. And I wonder where my money goes, I guess that's it.
Basic legal minimum is, the local and state regulations on how restaurants (as well as other businesses) are required to operate, that is to say, their sanitation, food quality, charging only what the menu says,...etc. I believe laws are strict enough that I wouldn't need to ask for more. I don't consider writing down my order and delivering my order from the kitchen "busting my ass" and I wouldn't ask for more than that. You are correct that I never worked in the service industry, and that's because I have many other choices, I would probably work there if my other options were worse.
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Again, of course, it could be said that OP could perhaps manage his finances better but that shouldn't be the point, the point is that he & his wife are 5 times more productive (100000:20000) compared to those other families & yet he & his wife are far from enjoying 5 times the living standard, which as has been said, must get us to question the system more than questioning OP's finances; agreed, OP went a little overboard in a hyperbolic sense in saying that "they're living BETTER than me" but the fact that the difference between their lifestyles is not even close to 5:1 should be alarming, we should be more irate about the gross misapplication of resources that are being STOLEN from OP than his finances
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As has been said before, blaming OP for taking the student-loan is justifiable to a degree BUT let's not overlook the government's role in causing the prices of education to skyrocket, if it wasn't for government, may be he would still have been in debt but it would be much less & OP would have more disposable income as he should & for that, government must share the blame.
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Currently I work 2 jobs and 1 of them is working minimum wage ($7.70/hr) at Wendy's. I bust my ass at that job too. I get pissed off because I end up doing twice the work of people half my age because they're all a bunch of lazy entitled little snots who are compelled to text every 5 seconds... and I still get paid exactly the same as them. There are no raises because our store is a small low profit store. Become a shift manager and you get a whopping $.70 an hour more. I was a manger until I realized how absolutely worthless that was.
There have been people who've lost their jobs in the steel industry and the coal mines who've come in to work at Wendy's and quit within a few weeks because they couldn't hack it. It wasn't that it was beneath them, they just couldn't keep up and remember the list of 20some things that were their responsibilities. And honestly, it really is sucky thankless job.
All you said was just that, take your order, bring your food, refills, and cash register/computer. Just more frequent and hectic. WOW, I didn't imagine you had to place utensils on the table, that's SLAVERY!Then you have to find time to turn ring the order up to give them the check which takes several minutes using the touchscreen computer. All while two tables are waving glasses for refills, one's food is up, one wants dessert, and you just got sat a new table that you've got to take silverware and get their drink order. Anyone who think all waitstaff does is take their order and bring them food has no clue what actually goes on in a restaurant. And I absolutely LOVED that job. Good exercise and decent money for a single mom (no welfare) who was also going to college at the same time.
That's bad management, but don't bust your ass if you think you can get away with it.Currently I work 2 jobs and 1 of them is working minimum wage ($7.70/hr) at Wendy's. I bust my ass at that job too. I get pissed off because I end up doing twice the work of people half my age because they're all a bunch of lazy entitled little snots who are compelled to text every 5 seconds... and I still get paid exactly the same as them.
So you live and learn. Sounds like you can perfectly understand why you're not given a raise, but you don't when your customers are "low profit consumers".There are no raises because our store is a small low profit store. Become a shift manager and you get a whopping $.70 an hour more. I was a manger until I realized how absolutely worthless that was.
But you get a guaranteed pay, that's the tradeoff, and the pay is only as good as t he market allows.There have been people who've lost their jobs in the steel industry and the coal mines who've come in to work at Wendy's and quit within a few weeks because they couldn't hack it. It wasn't that it was beneath them, they just couldn't keep up and remember the list of 20some things that were their responsibilities. And honestly, it really is sucky thankless job.
Maybe you don't mind waiting 15 minutes for a waitress to get to you, but most people want you at their table within one minute to get their drink order. If you're not there in 5, they'll either go complain or they'll get up and leave. And silverware... yeah you gotta go back in the back and pester the dishwasher to collect it and run it through. Half the time, you have to separate it and put it through yourself and then rack it up separating the spoons, knives, and forks, then take it to the front and put it in the bins, and then wrap it all while at the same time 2 new tables were just sat, foods up for 2 tables, one wants dessert and another wants a check. Then you go to get the drink order, come back to find there's no glasses, so then you gotta go back make sure they've been run through the dishwasher and then carry the 30lb container to the front. In that time, one of your tables is pissed because they're food is STILL sitting in the window and the other's dessert order is up. It's not this lazy slacker kind of job that you think it is. NO ONE, even homeless people would or could do it for $3/hr. And if you want some toothless alcoholic with hepatitis serving your food, good luck.
Besides I think waiting tables is much more a free market principle. Instead of a guaranteed government mandated minimum wage, you get what you earn. You do a good job, you get paid more. And you also take the risk of getting stiffed. All part of the job.
I have to wonder though how much of other people's spit (or other gross thing) you've eaten because there are some nasty servers out there. If you're a known non-tipper, there are those who will stoop to that.
I've not gotten sick before, so whatever I eaten hasn't hurt me yet.
Not "afraid that", so much as "fully aware that". Economic reality, not emotion. That IS where the free market kicks in, in a way that no restaurant sandbox market owner can control. It also disproves anyone's notion that servers are somehow being "fully paid" at $3 at hour.Like you said, you're only paid $3 an hour, so what's wrong with having another person split your work? Are you afraid you'd not make enough tips?
At $3 an hour, you can afford LOTS of staff. Hell, $12 an hour, and I can have four people slaving away for me? Why not PACK the restaurant full of such help? Just surround every table with willing servants, and spoil your customers. The service would be both cheap and off the hook!
The answer: They couldn't attract help at $3 an hour without those tipping opportunities. In fact, try to open a "NO TIPPING" restaurant, where tipping is politely discouraged as being against restaurant policy. Assure your customers that your help staff is already "fully paid". Now try to hire a single server at that price. And good luck with that, as you'll get no takers - at least not a single one worth a damn. It's self-correcting and already works that way anyway, with restaurants that over-staff their servers. A server who could have waited on five tables now has only one, and leaves, because the reality of the numbers dictates that it is not economically feasible to stay.
Last edited by onlyrp; 02-28-2012 at 02:07 PM.
You were never paying that money anyway, and like I said, if that's telegraphed, and you're a known stiffer, you have choices, they have choices. Everybody has choices.If I hurt somebody enough that they quit, good. If I don't, I save my money anyway...
I typically get amazing service at restaurants, but it's not because of the tips. It goes beyond that, because I treat servers with matter-of-fact kindness, dignity and respect (things that don't cost a thing). That's no guarantee for them that I'm a tipper, but it's a probability to them based on their experience. And even if I'm not, at the very least I'm not a tight-fisted asshole who isn't enjoyable to serve at any price.
That "dollar in hand" advantage is an illusion that only carries so far. One thing I've observed in life - it is far more costly in the long run to be an asshole; especially when esteeming others (e.g., "you don't have better options anyway, and nobody is forcing you, but I still expect you to jump for the plum I never dangled, bitch.")....that's the advantage of having the dollar in your hand. One thing the waiter/waitress can't deny, is that they don't have better options, and nobody is forcing them to work where they do.
Some have enough dollars in hand to make up the difference (a difference they rarely experience or notice by contrast). There are people who reckon everything by money costs alone, and many who believe they have "bought" the right to be an asshole to certain others. And it's true. In many cases they have done just that. That does not mean, however, that it does not come at a cost - only that the asshole can afford it.
You think you've saved a buck by not tipping, and you're right. But generally, in the long run, you get exactly what you paid for - and expected - in a misery loves company sort of way. You don't care if the server quits her job, and the server doesn't care if you dry up and blow away. It all evens out in the long run, and the service itself is not necessarily fungible, one to the next. The same person waiting on you may a completely different person, giving completely different service, when waiting on me. I factor that in, knowing that one thing scarcer than money is life itself - the time we spend on Earth. You walk out with a dollar in hand, food in your gut, and a server who hopes you never come back (and in many cases, an owner who also doesn't care). I walk out as I walked in. Happy. And they're always happy to see me return, and it's not just because I tip.
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Sure, nobody is forcing them to work there. But keep in mind, if they weren't there, nobody would be taking your order and getting your food, etc. The establishments simply wouldn't exist.
And if the manager was paying me the $17/hr I was making, he wouldn't be able to cover the cost of what I and the 20 other waitresses who worked there were worth.
Oh, and the silverware thing. That is one of the jobs of the waitress. Always has been. There is no position in the store created to do that and nobody else in any position would do it. Who wants to stand around waiting for silverware to wrap (since there is a finite amount and it is washed multiple times all day long and rewrapped)? No manager in their right mind would pay for that when the $3/hr person can do it in their duties.