why is it selfish? do you get no pleasure from rising your kids? do you not enjoy spending time with them? if you do, how can it be selfish if you're enjoying it?
Maybe slightly jealous of those who have enough money to do so, but still if i was in the position, unlikely for me
that's exactly what makes it selfish, deriving pleasure from using other human beings.do you not enjoy spending time with them? if you do, how can it be selfish if you're enjoying it?
To them, this represents an irresponsible "shirking of duties", rather than freedom.
My wife doesn't know how to answer them most of the time. When she meets someone she hasn't met for a while and they ask her if she has any kids, she says "No" and they reply with genuine pity: "Oh that's OK...", as if she's supposed to be sad, depressed or ashamed about it.
When she explains that she's not, they give her a look like she's crazy or something.
If this was a major factor in having children, I have no idea what to say to you. It reeks of indentured servitude where the servant had no say in the matter.
I'll have plenty of people to "help" me if I need it None of them will be guilted into it.
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As to the OP, I can't have kids, but I don't want them, either. It's a trap.
[QUOTE=MelissaWV;2846783]There is no law against befriending younger people. A lot of people in the Assisted Living Facility my grandmother in do not have their kids around, either, though the kids cheerfully contribute to the bill every month so that perfect strangers can wipe their parent's behind.
Well that's nice to know.
Don't get me wronge I don't feel like Bagdad is a bad person at all for his choice. I was just thinking how lonely I would be without my kids.
When you talk about the young folks helping the old is it in the elderly rest homes?
Man the tales I heard about going in the front door and the hearse is waiting at the back door. I pray I never have go into one of those. Ha