Today, 05:39 AM
Blaire White's real name is Blaire White. People change names all the time. That's even in the Bible. What were the "real" names of Abraham, Israel and Paul? As for pronouns, in English "you" is gender neutral. I never got that "My pronouns are" thing. If you're taking to me I don't expect you to say "him." If I'm not around and you're talking about me, well I hope it's good. It's only an issue when there are three or more people talking and you say something about someone to someone else. For trans people I avoid using pronouns altogether. In other word's "Blaire" is my pronoun for "Blaire." And I generally don't call people "sir" or "ma'am" especially if I'm not sure. One irritation for me as a naturally born, and still am, male is that sometimes people who don't know me call me "ma'am" on the phone or over intercom systems. I don't at all think I have a female voice and nobody that I've ever asked about this thinks that, but somehow that comes across over electronic signals. That happened to me yesterday at McDonalds. I work an IT help line as my main job and sometimes I have callers with female sounding voices but typical male names. (I haven't had the reverse yet as far as I can recall).
Maybe you consider this "caving in" but my position is "What's the point?" What do I gain from trying to look up the name of someone just so I can call that person by a name that person never uses now? I feel different about people I knew before transitioning. If I have strong memories of you as "Joseph" those memories are not tied to "Josephine." Interestingly enough you see Jacob and Israel used interchangeably throughout the Bible, but Abraham and Paul are never called by their "dead names" once their names were changed.
Anyway, from a spiritual perspective I look at how Jesus treated the woman at the well. When He told her "You have five husbands, and the man you are living with is not your husband" it was clear he was neither condemning her as a person nor condoning her lifestyle. He acknowledged what was going in her life while He was offering her a much better life in every possible way. When she asked Him a direct theological question, worship in Jerusalem or in the mountains of Samaria, Jesus was direct but again not confrontational and ultimately offered something more. "You Samaritans don't know what you worship. Salvation is of the Jews. But eventually this Jerusalem/Samaria place of worship thing won't even matter because God is a Spirt. He's everywhere and He wants worshippers in spirit and in truth."
Recently High School Musical star Joshua Bassett took flack from the left for joining a conservative church that supports "conversion therapy." Now here's the funny part. Joshua is openly gay. Note I didn't say "was" openly gay. So even though there were no "rainbow flags" at the church signally they accepted his lifestyle, he felt comfortable joining. I think Jesus approves of that. The Bible says "By beholding we become changed." If Josh isn't comfortable enough to come to a church that upholds Biblical standards then how is he going to behold Jesus long enough to change?
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