Nothing tangible has happened as of yet, despite these bullshit stories. I'm a bit surprised you two are falling for the crap being put out. He's still an authoritarian and so far his claims have been a bunch of sound and fury and nothing else. Hope springs eternal I guess.
That pretty much says it all. If you're to damn lazy to steer a guy in the right direction it's your own damn fault. My experience is that if a woman is sincerely interested in you she'll give all the ASSistance you could need. If she's going to lay there passive and leave you on a island then tough titty.