04-06-2017, 08:09 AM
This isn't a foster care issue anymore. Before she was adopted she was a foster child, yes. However now the Dalsings adopted her, she's no longer a foster child. To move a child from a foster to being fully adopted, parental rights have to be terminated. This ensures there aren't problems like this going to pop up down the line. It protects both the child and new parents from their family being broken apart. Once an adoption is finalized, legally Braelyn is the child of the Dalsings. Once the adoption is finished, the new adoptive parents can do anything they wish about allowing visitation or not, it is no different than any parent letting friends and family visit.
Having went through this a few times it's over a year long process to have parental rights terminated. If the family grandmother couldn't even remove the child out of foster care there are definitely other issues at hand here. When the kid is in foster care the state pays for them, if the state can put the kid back with biological family, in a safe setting, they will. Simple things like a roof over their head, no drugs, and them being able to feed them. although to be a foster parent you don't need much other than a safe environment - food on the table, roof over their head, and a place for them to sleep. I will say that the foster care workers I've met are an exception to my typical view of a government worker and the foster families are out to help kids. The monthly stipend for fostering covers the basics and that's it, although medical is covered by the state.
Personally my family went through a somewhat similar situation. A baby only a few weeks old was given for foster care, with the foster system knowing the intention was hopefully for adoption. The baby had stayed with a nurse from birth for the first few weeks to handle some medical issues due to the bio mother's horrible actions while pregnant. It was determined who the bio father actually was, some blood tests were done to prove that. The drug using bio father had no regular job, had no real desire to take the baby. His mother wanted the baby. The bio grandmother had other issues and her home was not determined to be safe for the child. The baby stayed in foster, the adoption process went slowly ahead. The bio mother's rights were quickly terminated, she actually had a few other children removed before due to drugs and alcohol. The bio father went through a process to show he could be responsible enough to have a child. Over a year process he could not give a clean drug test nor could he hold a job. The bio grandmother did not change things to give a safe environment for a child. During this time there were supervised visits on a regular schedule as the baby was still a foster child and the system was working to place her in a good home, her bio family was still a possibility. Almost 2 years later the bio father's rights were terminated, the adoption was finalized. That was over a decade ago, that baby is now a teen and a great kid (I'm admittedly biased)
From what I gather that was a typical process for fostering and adoption through the foster system. Then there are very sad, horrible, how could you do that to kids, years of consoling sort of reasons. I have to hand it to the people I met who work in the foster system, I don't know how they don't snap after seeing what they do.